“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

When you want to go downtown, you know that destination exists, though you may be miles away from it. When you want to find a mate you take it for granted that a potential mate exists, though where in space and time you do not know. Your intent to find a mate sends out “strands of consciousness,” however, composed of desire and intent. Like detectives, these search the world, looking in a completely different way than a physical sleuth. The world is probed with your characteristics in mind, seeking for someone else with characteristics that will best suit your own. And whatever your purpose is, the same procedure on a psychic level is involved.

There are people who want children and mates, and have those excellent qualities that would serve them well as parents. Some of those same individuals may be convinced that love is wrong, however, or that sex is debasing, or that children mean the end of youth. Such persons may then find themselves breaking off good relationships with those of the other sex for no apparent reason, or forcing the other party to break with them. Here again we have two clear purposes, but they oppose each other.

[...] There was no fixed mating period, for example. [...]

[...] The more flexible mating pattern was one. [...]

While there was no mating period, still there was a close biological relationship between the species and the earth, so that women naturally conceived when situations of climate, food supplies, and other elements were beneficial.

[...] Ruburt used his will to solve one challenge: he was determined to find the kind of mate that would best suit him, and his own unique characteristics. [...]

[...] You were at the same time determined to set yourself apart from the world to some extent, while still maintaining and developing an emotional contact with a mate that would be unlike any in your earlier experience.

People have written here asking about soul mates.³ In certain circles this is the latest vogue. [...] They spend time searching for their soul mates — but the search involves them in a pilgrimage for a kind of impossible communication with another, in which all division is lost, with the two then trying to join in a cementing oneness, suffocating all sense of play or creativity. You are not one part, or one half, of another soul,⁴ searching through the annals of time for your partner, undone until you are completed by your soul mate.

3. Our dictionary defines a soul mate as one of the opposite sex with whom an individual “has a deeply personal relationship” — a mundane enough description. [...] Then we began to get letters from readers who either asked for Seth’s help in finding soul mates, or for his verification that such counterparts had, indeed, already been located.

To me, beside whatever relationship it might have with counterpart reality, the soul-mate belief embodies strongly distorted versions of the ideas contained in the two Seth passages quoted above.

And when you were discovered it was he, a first mate, who had you pressed into duty, and who belittled your efforts until finally he struck you; a fact, incidentally, which you were not willing to face in the dream.

[...] The mate died during that journey. [...]

A spot on the lungs also suggests bleeding or leaking, which returns you to the leaking vessel image once again, and also refers to the wound which leaked blood, that was inflicted upon the first mate.

[...] You must make innumerable decisions in your lives — must choose careers, mates, cities of residence. [...]

[...] Because he idealized you so, he projected the same kind of feelings from you to him, thinking then that you wanted an ideal mate, not a quite human one. [...]

[...] They slept long hours, as did the animals—awakening, so to speak, to exercise their bodies, obtain sustenance, and, later, to mate. [...]

[...] (Pause.) Your own relationship, your private beliefs about the sort of persons you wanted individually for mates, brought about incalculable actions that led finally to your meeting — yet it all happened “quite naturally,” of course. [...]

[...] Occasionally at surface levels of consciousness, you might wonder what might have happened had you made other decisions than those you have; chosen different mates, for example, or taken up residence in other portions of the country. [...]

[...] A mate from any given life, for example, may or may not represent someone with whom you have a deep abiding tie, and again you may marry someone because of highly ambiguous feelings from a past life, and choose a married relationship that is not based upon love, though love may emerge.

[...] There was some mating between these groups—that is, of all of the groups—at various times.

He was determined to find the kind of mate that would best suit him and his own unique characteristics. [...]

[...] At the same time you were determined to set yourself apart from the world to some extent, while still maintaining and developing an emotional contact with a mate that would be unlike any in your earlier experience. [...]

[...] You think “I cannot be a good parent and a sexual partner to my mate at the same time.” [...] A woman might feel that the qualities of a mother almost stand in opposition to those of an exuberant sex mate. [...]

[...] So is your relationship with your mate, your boss, and the kinds of events with which you are uniquely familiar.

[...] You are his confidant, lover, partner and mate, so your support and approval is paramount. [...]

[...] Another person will never find a compatible mate. [...]

[...] A person holding it will not trust a mate, family, friends, colleagues, country, or the world in general.

[...] If you are a parent, imagine that you are your mate, and in that role imaginatively consider your children.

[...] She believes that a new mate will be almost impossible to find. [...]