“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

Now as to your noise episode, here are some suggestions for future use in any episode where irritation is involved. Followed, these suggestions will help you answer the demands put upon you when you feel the need for certain responses. When you are annoyed, if possible state your annoyance to the person involved, reasonably, (underlined) but at the time of the annoyance. When you do not respond in this manner the annoyance builds up and you are then tempted to respond to one incident as if many were involved, because the others were not responded to adequately at the time.

You understand the abundance of energy possessed by your young neighbor. You simply do not want it expended at your expense. She does not know where to draw the line for her own good. She will be quite satisfied if someone she respects helps her draw a line of adequate behavior. She expected this from both of you for some time.

When you did not firmly or adequately express your displeasure then she wavered. She was not pleased with her own behavior, yet needed support that your reprimand would have provided, and can still provide.

Now. To begin a program of reasonable adequate response, to annoying stimuli, is your best insurance against overreaction and repression.

Your neighbor has no real conscious knowledge of the nature of your emotional reaction. You projected negative attitudes upon her because you had not reacted adequately in the past. She would feel hit by a sledge hammer if you followed through on your plan. (Pause.) She is looking for direction.