“Seth material” search engine (Jane Roberts)

(The usual session time of 9 PM came and passed while Jane and I talked. Finally we used her pendulum to learn that her overly conscientious self did not want a session this evening. Her spontaneous self did.

He can and should have excellent health and flexibility, in order to carry out the work that he was meant to carry out. This will also get the overly conscientious self on your side. You can take it as slowly as you like to begin with, but the step should be taken.

He has made advances in understanding since our last sessions. You must also be patient with him. The overly conscientious self was angry (today and tonight), and he projected this anger at you, so that he thought he was simply a bother to you, and of no benefit. Understanding this is necessary, but if possible in small ways show him that this is not true; for it can amount to an emotional conviction on his part, and an emotional assurance from you will work far faster than the use of words, though both are necessary.

In his efforts to understand and help your parents he has more than made up for any failure with his mother. He should understand this. Others more capable have taken over the same role with his mother. (Pause.)

He should work on the dream book each day, whenever possible, but not all day. The spontaneous self dislikes the spelling chores and the bare typing, and the overly conscientious self fears the books success. Two, at the most three, hours daily is sufficient for now. Possibly two hours unless he feels like more. When he does, this is fine. The rest of the time for poetry. This is the most reasonable and attainable goal for the present. The book will be finished, but not too many demands will be made of either portion of the self on a daily basis.

Now, indeed, his upset over your intimate life is a good sign. The anger, for there is anger, is against the overly conscientious self, and he should know this. On the other hand on your part, all signs of affection will be of great benefit. Do not press overly, for sexual response. Give the affection freely without demand, and you will need no demand. You will know when a demand is the right thing under the circumstances, however, and this is also important, for he will on occasion yield gladly. The affection without demand must first lull the overly conscientious self, for it needs to be quieted and relaxed.

Now. All so-called spiritualistic literature should be avoided at this time, simply because the overly conscientious self misinterprets it, and sets up further standards of perfection.

Ruburt did take a good step this evening in talking out to you his feelings. In the past he would have tried to ignore them. The overly conscientious self however tells him that you do not want to be bothered, and so he hesitates and interprets your words, sometimes, in that light.

A very small point, but interesting: he resents ironing, this because his mother was overly particular. This resentment is on the part of the spontaneous self in the main.

You did indeed. Again, the spontaneous self opens and warms to affection, colors, movement, you see. The overly conscientious self is overly orderly.

(“Is the overly conscientious self less alarmed now?”)

It is cooperating more. Its overconcern arose as the result of the suggestions given over the years. (Jane again lay down on the couch, flat on her back as she continued speaking.) As they lose their power it will be able to relax.

— to take over at any point. I will not interfere with the process.